By Sherry Dawson

Lose the victim mentality and take charge of your life.

Author Peter McWilliams defined a victim as “a person to whom life happens.”  A great many people go through life allowing it to happen to them, instead of participating fully and creating their life as they would desire it to be.  They complain about their situation and “hope” or pray for change to occur.  These people are victims, although they may not recognize that fact.

Most adults truly believe that they ARE taking responsibility for their lives.  They have jobs that allow them to be financially responsible for themselves and their families, they enter into relationships, they own houses and cars and take responsibility for transporting themselves.  Of course they are responsible.

But how often do you hear these same adults complaining?  Single or divorced folks complaining about their ex-wife, ex-husband, their loneliness, how difficult it is to meet someone?  Married folks complaining about their boss, not having enough money, lack of communication or intimacy with their spouse?  And others who complain about their jobs, but are afraid to leave because “the economy” is so bad.  Are these people taking responsibility for their experience of life?  This is a classic victim viewpoint, believing that something or someone else is responsible for the problems in life. Read More→