As I sit down and take the time to reflect, I question my true identity. Am I the ‘me’ that I want to be or am I the ‘me’ whom others have define me to be? Am I the one who helps solve the worlds’ problems while forgetting me? Or have I become the ‘me’ that I have no desire to be? I realized that for so many years, I have become disconnected with who I am as a person that when asked to define those things that make up who I am, I talk about everything around me except for me. How had I become so far removed from everything that was, is, and will be me? Today I had no choice but to answer this question before I continue down a spiraling path of unwarranted unhappiness– unhappiness that I created based on my desire to please people.
With so many changes in life’s journey, I realized how quickly I had found time to help others while forgetting about myself. I had forgotten who I was as a person to the point that my identity was now shaped and molded by those things around me. Recently, when asked a question as to who I was, I failed to remember anything but my first and last names. How did I get here so far, so deep, into an abyss without a place to go and retreat?
As I ponder these thoughts, I realized that I must reflect on what really defines me. I am not defined by my job, my degrees, my children, my relationships, and not even my material possessions. I am me simply because that is who I am-me! Today I learned that I cannot fix the worlds’ problems or take ownership of the world as I am only one small building block that makes up this world. I learned today that if I fail to reconnect with me, then I fail to connect with others as without me those relationships and things cease to exist. I learned that the greatest gift that I can give me is time to love me, time to want me, time to hold me, and time to embrace the person who is me. It is time for me to redefine the ‘me’ in ‘me’ so that I can finally be free and not others. True happiness comes from within then spreads outwardly and NOT the other way around.
April Lisbon-Peoples is a relationship coach who enjoys inspiring her clients to find the relationship they deserve. She is the founder and CEO of Running Your Race, a coaching practice designed for individuals and couples who are ready to awaken their creative visions for their present relationship or a relationship they desire to have.
April has written various articles focusing on elevating and motivating people in various aspects of their lives. Everyday, she aspires to help her clients realize their relationship dreams while gaining and maintaining a level of prosperity and wellness within other areas of their lives. So if you are ready to move towards the next level of your life, then e-mail her at email@example.com.
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