Networking and getting to know new people is important for success, but initial small talk can be overwhelming for many people. How can you confidently make small talk with somebody – a person who could become an important business contact? If you keep several basic things in mind, you can be confident in any situation where you need to make small talk.
First, be ready to introduce yourself. Your name is always the best way to start a conversation. Avoiding introductions seems to begin in childhood. When I ask my children the name of the friend they’ve made at the park, they usually just stare at me. It seems that introductions are not even considered. This remains true into adulthood.
If you’re with somebody you know, they may introduce you, but don’t count on it. The first thing you should be ready to say is your name. Say it clearly and with a smile. If you have an unusual name be sure to make the pronunciation clear. People want to say your name correctly, and confidently and clearly saying your name helps them. Say your name clearly.
Take a good look at the other person during the introductions. Don’t linger or take to long, but do look over them and find something to compliment. They may have a great smile, remarkable eyes, or a nice bracelet or watch. Find something you can genuinely compliment. Even the other person’s name is a good thing.
Use their name when you give the compliment: “I love that bracelet, Jean.” “Todd, that’s a great tie.” This helps you remember their name and it enhances the compliment for the other person.
This simple technique may help launch you into a conversation about the complimented feature or accessory. If so, you’re off and running and keep up the conversation.
If things putter out, or you get a simple “thanks” you can go ahead with another question. Asking somebody where they’re from is a great question. Many people like to share where they are from, or where they grew up. If they have negative feelings about it, ask them where their favorite place is. Favorite vacation spots are another good topic. You can look for something in common with this – maybe they love the beach and you also love the beach, or you love to swim, etc. These are good places to look for ways to continue the conversation.
Other topics are where the person went to college or graduate school, or you can ask them what they do for a living. Most people like to share these things. Generally these topics will bring you some common ground to talk about, or they will help you lead into the topics you’d really like to cover.
Small talk can take some practice. If you’re going to a seminar, conference, or other networking event it can pay off to practice first. Practice with your spouse, or even in front a mirror. Practice saying your name confidently, and moving into a compliment and further conversation. Also take some time and imagine yourself meeting new people and chatting with them confidently. Your mind believes these are actual “practice sessions” and they’ll develop your confidence so you do well in real situations.
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