By Dail Hill
Sometimes, things happen in our lives that appear to mean one thing when they actually mean something very different, usually far from what we initially interpret them to mean.
I often reflect on the things I’ve experienced from my past. Not in regret, or a wish to relive the past, but just to try to make sure that the lessons have been learned.
Despite the emotions attached to our past, there were lessons for life intertwined in each episode. Why do you look back even on hurts that come alive again at the slightest glimpse? Why do memories seem to come and go sometimes leaving us confused about what must have prompted you to think about a certain person, place or time. Sometimes it’s a song that leaves you teary eyed and in thought about a time long gone. It happens to me often.
As I was writing this article I thought about people that have come and gone in my life for various reasons and I tried to recall our interactions good and bad to see where and what the lessons were and if I can say what I learned. In most cases I do know now exactly where and what they were, some aren’t so clear. Gratefully, I can say that the mistakes I made may have had some hefty consequences sometimes but the lessons are becoming my yellow brick road.
I find myself able to share little parts of me with women I meet, linking us as sisters by a common bond of the past all while helping one another to open our eyes to not just our likeness, but to our need for one another. We all have common bonds and sharing them is part of the lessons.
Now all of a sudden I can hear my coach asking me if this article was key word rich. I think I’m going to have to answer “No”. Maybe not keyword rich but rich in what women need to hear, to read and to acknowledge. Yes it is.
Sistas, I’ve heard it said that women dwell on the past, well if my past is the key to my future, so be it! If I had not experienced the things I’ve gone through I would not be who I am today and neither would you.
Stop and take the time to look back. Look at yourself and all of your challenges, your accomplishments and yes, your mistakes especially the big ones. Because in all of those times there were lessons meant to take you through to the next episodes of life. After you’re done crying and laughing, better yet, in the midst of it all give thanks for your survival and for grace and mercy, then applaud yourself because somewhere along the way you learned enough to get through. Vow to yourself to heed the lessons placed before you because guaranteed the opportunity to use them will arise, and your ability to move through it will depend on your use of the lessons from your past.
Life lessons are meant to be shared to help usher another young woman or old woman through the twists and turns of womanhood. Things can get tough sometimes and without a friend to share your experiences, a shoulder to cry on or someone to laugh with, it can seem impossible to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Let me assure you there is indeed a light at the end. For you it may have been your mother or grandmother whose stories of triumph over circumstances encouraged you. For someone else it may be your story, your life’s lessons that is the light at the end of the tunnel for them.
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Dail A. Hill
Article Source: Life Lessons
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Thank you again for the insightful perspective on looking back good or bad, right or wronged. When we choose to see them for the lesson they hold now for us instead of how awful it may have been at the time and could be if we allowed emotional attachment to take hold, we are positioning ourselves for strength, grow, influence, and impact. VICTORY!!!