By Christine Crotts

Can anything be more painful than a broken friendship? Maybe not, except for breaking up with your partner. It is even difficult to contemplate how you can break a friendship that goes back a long way. You were so close and never imagined that it could happen to you. Even your colleagues and other friends know how close you were. Well then, what happened? Whose fault was it?

Does it really matter who is to be blamed for this rift? After all, both of you have been friends for so long it is unimaginable that some silly misunderstanding could make you part your ways. Let’s say for argument’s sake that it is your fault. What must you do to mend the broken friendship? First and foremost, don’t let the break go on for long until both parties become stubborn feeling that the other should apologize first or something like.

Mending a broken friendship is not that easy. The hurt is not easy to let go. Be the first to talk to her. It does not matter even if it was not your fault. Surely your friendship is worth more than some petty notion? If it was not your fault, then it should be even easier for you to forgive her. Tell her that you have no hard feelings and that her friendship is more valuable to you than any silly misunderstanding. Be magnanimous; and she will have no alternative but to be friends with you again. Never hark back to this incident unless she brings it up. Let it strengthen your bonds even more.

If the fault for the broken friendship was yours, tell her so and explain that you should never had said what you said or did what you did. Explain to her that for once, you seem to have lost your mind. Don’t be a coward and send her a mail or call her. You have to go and see her and tender your apology. If you are lucky, she might accept it at once; but if the hurt has gone too deep, you will have to give her time to come to terms with it. Talk to your mutual pals and get them to intervene if possible; that is of course if your first attempt has been unsuccessful. But don’t give up. Prove to your friend that she’s worth fighting for and that you are willing to show how sorry you are by being mature and patient until she’s ready to be your friend again.

Rebuilding a broken friendship takes time and care. It has to be done gently. A friendship of many years can be broken in a minute due to careless talk or even jealousy. A true friendship however is worth mending but take it slowly, step by step. Talk to her about the good times you had the bad times when you helped each other. Tell her how difficult it would be for you to go it alone after having her beside you all this time. The healing might take time; but your broken friendship will be mended because you cannot afford to keep it broken forever.

Give it all you’ve got and remember that any sacrifice you make on behalf of your friendship is worth it in the long run. A broken friendship must be mended as soon as possible or you will live to regret it all your life. To me, a broken friendship is like losing a part of myself.

Christine Crotts tries to buck the trend whenever she has the chance. Wearing classy, but different, clothing is just one way she enjoys being different. In his off time, Christine has written a site with reviews of pink bow tie, as well as a review of gold bow tie.

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